No: Use Liberally To Reduce Stress

As the rain came I wondered where we might hear a land slide had happened or a tree fell over. It is not uncommon for large, strong trees to become stressed by too much water, and just let go at the roots.

Involvement is fun and important for growth. But we have to be careful not to over water. The most likely way to find out that being involved in another activity is too much is feeling the stress level go up. Stress builds, people let go and collapse in exhaustion. It is in everyone’s best interest to say no before this happens.

Unfortunately, I am an expert at over commitment. Far too often I allowed myself to become involved in so much that I was a miserable mess most of the time. Being asked to be involved was an honor, how could I say no? 

Until I couldn’t stand any of it anymore. Too much water striped my life of nutrients and my roots grew week. It took moving away to help me draw boundary lines. We had a much nicer family life when I was careful of my schedule. 

Of course there are nice ways to say, “No.”

” I’m afraid we already have a full plate. ” 

“Unfortunately that won’t fit in our schedule.”

” I don’t have the time that deserves. “

Are some of my favorites. 

If your answer has to be no, don’t promise to think about it. A foot in the door is an open invitation. 

Take care of your roots for strong growth.


By Laura

Laura S. Tarasoff is poet, writer, explorer, and believer in people. Laura lives on Whidbey Island, Washington. Whenever she can she walks the beach looking for agates, hoping for whale sightings, or takes on the splendor of the eagles and hawks filling the prairie sky. She enjoys a terrific burger, a rolling laugh, and getting to know people.Laura hopes that her words will bring hope and encouragement to get through the hardest parts of life.

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